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Now, this post is a bit different to what I usually write about on my blog, but quite a few people have talked about the subject of weight/ self image recently. A few weeks ago, something happened that made me want to discuss this topic and put some of my opinions across.
"She's too skinny, I feel like I'm going to break her... "
This is a comment that was not only said to me, but also in front of a large group of people for them all to hear. It was also said whilst the person was giving me a massage, so having this said to me whilst they were touching me, was horrible. To me, it was literally one of the most embarrassing moments of my life. It felt like everyone's attention was on me and my body. You may have read my new years resolutions post where I talked about the fact I'm not a very confident person; these are the sort of comments that really knock me back and make me feel crap about myself.
I know some people will think "Oh get over yourself, it's just a passing comment", but the reason I'm writing this post is to hopefully raise some awareness to the fact the term "skinny" is an insulting and hurtful word. Personally, I find it just as hurtful as calling someone "fat". I've never seen why it's socially unacceptable to call someone "fat" in passing conversation, however it is okay to call someone "skinny" and expect them to take it as a compliment. "Skinny" is a horrible word in itself and is linked to other words such as: boney, scrawny, undernourished & skeletal. Now, you wouldn't go up to someone and say "Oh you're looking really boney today" or "Here have a burger, you look undernourished" and expect them to smile about it? No, I didn't think so.
I also know for a fact that if she was working on a larger person, she wouldn't have said "She's too fat, I can't find any of her muscles" because it's known the word "fat" (and the whole sentence) is seen as an insult. If larger people don't want to be called "fat", why should slimmer people have this word "skinny", which is just as hurtful but means the polar opposite, thrown at them? It's probably all down to the fact that now days people want to be "skinny" and the word has lost it's real meaning. I'm sure what people mean is "slim" or "thin", as I really don't think anyone wants to be classed as "skinny".
I would also like to point out that I have been always been quite a slim person and I have never ever been on a diet. I eat everything a normal teenager should, crisps, chocolate, pizza and I am naturally this way. I also eat enough for me and have a variety of foods including pastas and other carbs which are meant to gain you weight. I think it boils down to the fact I have a fast metabolism which runs in my family. I find it really hard to gain weight and then keep it. This is why I hate being classed as "skinny" as this is who I am and I really can't do much about it. It's even worse when people actually say to me "Ergh, gain some weight, there's nothing of you". I would love to be more curvaceous and have clothes fit me properly instead of hanging weirdly and being in between sizes. I hate how certain parts of my body look and that I'm always freezing cold, even in the summer. I find it annoying that I have a small appetite and come across rude when I can't eat the food someone's gone to the effort and cooked me. It's just who I am and I can't change that.
But saying all that, I'm happy with who I am and I'm not sorry I can't "have something of me" (if that even makes sense) just to please others. If I have always been like this, surely me and my body are used to it (and I will definitely not be broken when touched). If you feel like you're in the same situation, just remember you are you and that is special. As long as you're healthy then what does it matter what size or weight you are. That's what helps make who you are and why should you feel down about that!
People need to accept that bodies come in all shapes and sizes and no one needs to be labelled as "fat" or "skinny", it's a waste of time. It's who they are and what makes them unique from everyone else. The world would be a boring place if everyone looked the same.
I know this is a ranty type of post and I usually post positive things on my blog. I promise the next post will be happy and back to normal ♥
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I know some people will think "Oh get over yourself, it's just a passing comment", but the reason I'm writing this post is to hopefully raise some awareness to the fact the term "skinny" is an insulting and hurtful word. Personally, I find it just as hurtful as calling someone "fat". I've never seen why it's socially unacceptable to call someone "fat" in passing conversation, however it is okay to call someone "skinny" and expect them to take it as a compliment. "Skinny" is a horrible word in itself and is linked to other words such as: boney, scrawny, undernourished & skeletal. Now, you wouldn't go up to someone and say "Oh you're looking really boney today" or "Here have a burger, you look undernourished" and expect them to smile about it? No, I didn't think so.
I also know for a fact that if she was working on a larger person, she wouldn't have said "She's too fat, I can't find any of her muscles" because it's known the word "fat" (and the whole sentence) is seen as an insult. If larger people don't want to be called "fat", why should slimmer people have this word "skinny", which is just as hurtful but means the polar opposite, thrown at them? It's probably all down to the fact that now days people want to be "skinny" and the word has lost it's real meaning. I'm sure what people mean is "slim" or "thin", as I really don't think anyone wants to be classed as "skinny".
But saying all that, I'm happy with who I am and I'm not sorry I can't "have something of me" (if that even makes sense) just to please others. If I have always been like this, surely me and my body are used to it (and I will definitely not be broken when touched). If you feel like you're in the same situation, just remember you are you and that is special. As long as you're healthy then what does it matter what size or weight you are. That's what helps make who you are and why should you feel down about that!
People need to accept that bodies come in all shapes and sizes and no one needs to be labelled as "fat" or "skinny", it's a waste of time. It's who they are and what makes them unique from everyone else. The world would be a boring place if everyone looked the same.
I know this is a ranty type of post and I usually post positive things on my blog. I promise the next post will be happy and back to normal ♥
